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James S. Carlucci

Jul 12, 1964 - May 02, 2024

James S. Carlucci

July 12, 1964 - May 02, 2024


Jim passed away peacefully at the age of 59, in the early morning hours of Thursday May 2nd, in the arms of his beloved wife Andrea.

Jim was born on July 12, 1964, to Stephen and Nancy Carlucci. He entered the world 3 1/2 weeks late, and as all would agree, it was the first and last time he was late for anything.

He was a cherubic baby weighing in at 8 lbs 10 oz He was happy and content. His mom would say that he was fiercely independent from a very young age, always wanting to do things on his own...and his own way!

He spent summers at his grandparent's cottage on Keuka Lake and it was beloved to him. He worked hard keeping it in good working condition. He spent hours working on the boat and various other projects through the years. He and Andrea along with their brood of canines, would spend long, lazy summer days there, floating on the lake, and listening to laps of water on the shore.

He grew up on Spencerport Rd. and made many lifelong friends in the neighborhood. He graduated from Spencerport High School and RIT, where he earned a Bachelor of Technology degree in computer science.

He worked for Wegman's Food Markets since he was 16 and transitioned to a full-time position after graduation from RIT. He worked as a computer programmer and was instrumental in the development of the shopper's club program.

He met his wife in 1984, the old-fashioned a bar named Flashbacks on Lyell Rd in Gates. They were friends for a year and began dating in the summer of 1985. They were married in 1989 and their wedding ceremony was an hour and 20 minutes long, much to the dismay of their guests.

In the mid 90's Jim and Andrea found the Victorian, historic town of Cape May. They spent almost every summer vacationing there, befriending Inn Keepers and making lifelong friends. It was their most favorite place.

He was a fierce animal lover and never said no to Andrea when she brought home yet another dog or cat for adoption. They had several "foster fails". They were parents to Barnum and Bailey, Scotty, Abby and Lily, Tallulah, Wendell and Lola Pola. The current brood include Ruby, Kicker, Fetty, Oliver, Sweets and Romeo. He LOVED them all.

Jim had his first golf lesson at the age of 14. He fell in love with the game but took a hiatus as high school and college came into view. He took it up again at the age of 30. It was then he began his lifelong study of the game. It intrigued him. There isn't a golf book printed that he hasn't read to further his understanding.

He enjoyed the camaraderie that golf provided, and the challenges posed by the intricacies of the game. The friendships he made on the course helped to sustain him during some of his most difficult days. One of his favorite quotes comes from Harry Vardon: " Even in our darkest hour we must remember; Never Despair". Therefore, every ball was marked with an ND, as a constant reminder.

He was a member at all 3 county golf courses and loved being a municipal golfer. He is the only person to have ever won club championships at all 3 county courses, 5 of them being at Durand Eastman. His friends honored him with a plaque noting this feat. The opening day of Monroe County golf season, April 14, 2023, was declared "Jim Carlucci" day by county executive Adam Bello, in honor of Jim's notable golf accomplishments.

He was a consummate problem solver. He had tenacity and perseverance. He would stay on a project until it was completed, no matter what obstacle got in his way. He was a master craftsman. He remodeled the kitchen in his home, designing it, and doing all the work himself. This included taking down walls, putting in hardwood floors and hanging cabinets. He also made a display cabinet complete with LED lighting!

He loved the families of birds that would come to nest in the yard each spring. Last year, he spent hours building wooden birdhouses for them to call home. They sit in every tree in the backyard.

He was a great storyteller, had a robust sense of humor, and loved practical jokes. (Something he inherited from his dad). He knew how to make people laugh until they cried. He was an avid reader, critical and philosophical thinker, and loved the sharing of ideas.

As his health began to wane, he did things to occupy his active mind. He was a self-taught artist and sketched each of his dogs in painstaking detail. He listened to music on his sound system, which he carefully crafted. He had eclectic musical taste, ranging from southern rock to classical.

He completed several model airplanes, and finally finished a model ship he has had since 1987. It is housed in a custom-crafted cabinet that he created. He and Andrea were "Twilight Zone" aficionados and spent most New Years Eve's watching the yearly marathon. Planet of the Apes, another classic, was one of their favorites as well. Jim's nephew Jeff was a constant support to him in the early days of diagnosis, which meant the world to him. I can still hear him say "My boy Jeff", when referring to him, as he often did.

Jim was everyone's go to guy. Family and friends would call him with different issues ranging from appliance repair to computer problems. He very rarely turned anyone down! If he could help, he surely would!

Jim was a man of integrity and was loved by many. He was brave in the face of his illness, and never let it stop him from living life on his terms. He wasted no time, took every moment as a chance to learn and grow as an individual. He believed constant learning was the ultimate meaning of life.

He will be missed beyond comprehension. Jim is predeceased by his grandparents, Stephen and Marion Carlucci and Herman and Grace Koch; brother-in-law and sister-in-law George and Sandra Bovenzi, and brother-in-law George Barlow.

Jim is survived by his wife of 35 years, Andrea. Parents, Stephen and Nancy Carlucci; brother David; nephew Jeffrey (Kelly) Carlucci; great-niece Lydia; sister-in-law Annette Barlow; nephews David and Jason Bovenzi and their families. Many beloved cousins, friends, and brothers in golf.

The family would like to extend heartfelt gratitude to Dr. Aram Hezel and the team at Wilmot Cancer Center, for the exceptional care given to Jim over the last 10 years. To Dr. Rob Horowitz and the palliative care and hospice team and to Dr. Mala Gupta for her care and compassion.

Friends may call Friday, May 10th from 3-7 pm at Bartolomeo & Perotto Funeral Home. All are invited to attend his Funeral Mass on Saturday, May 11th, at 10:30 am at Spiritus Christi Church, 121 Fitzhugh St. N. Interment at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. Donations may be made in Jim's memory to a charity of your choice.


Fri, May 10, 2024 at 3:00 pm - 7:00 pm
Bartolomeo & Perotto Funeral Home

1411 Vintage Lane
Rochester, NY 14626

Sat, May 11, 2024 at 10:30 am
Spiritus Christi Church

121 Fitzhugh St. N.
Rochester, NY 14614

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