Funeral Etiquette
Attending a funeral or visitation raises common etiquette questions: what to wear, what to say, and whether to bring flowers or make a donation instead. Bartolomeo & Perotto offers this general guidance. Call (585) 720-6000 with specific questions.
What to Wear
Conservative, subdued clothing is the traditional default, though norms vary by family and faith tradition.
What to Say
A simple, sincere expression of sympathy is generally most appropriate.
Flowers or Donations
Both are common; if an obituary specifies a preference, follow that request.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What should I wear to a funeral?
Conservative, subdued clothing is traditional, though norms vary by family and faith.
What should I say to a grieving family member?
A simple, sincere expression of sympathy is appropriate.
Should I bring flowers, or is a donation more appropriate?
Both are common; follow the obituary’s stated preference if there is one.
Is it okay to bring children to a funeral?
A personal family decision; giving a child the choice with an honest explanation is generally supportive.